A couple of years ago I decided to combine those two ideas. I made myself a wish board, inspired by something I used to say to an ex-boyfriend ("What about me?!"). On the wish board, one of the things I added was a sealed red envelope. Inside the envelope I had made a list of all the things I wanted in a relationship. I haven't looked at it since I made it several years ago, but, since I'm still single, I think it's safe to say the boyfriend list didn't work. So let's take a look...
- tall, dark, and handsome
- great kisser; lots of chemistry
- makes me feel beautiful and safe
- unconditional trust; faithful
- good job, good family, good conversationalist
- gets along with my friends and family
- makes me laugh
- doesn't need a babysitter
- non-douchebag
- strong; my emotional and intellectual equal; able to tell me when I'm wrong without being an asshole
- gives me butterflies
- is the perfect guy for me
I think that's a pretty good list, but I have a few more things to add:
- I want him to adore me.
- I want to be first in his life. I have spent too much time being second place (or third or fourth) to addictions, work, or other people
- I want to have equally great emotional and physical chemistry. I will no longer sacrifice one for the other.
After spending a good, but somewhat unsatisfying weekend in Glenwood, I though I would revisit my list and see what I had told my subconscious to look for. Since I still agree on all those things I wrote, I guess I just haven't met him yet. My brain keeps trying to fit the guys I already know into this list, much like trying to force a puzzle piece into the wrong spot.
Hopefully this means he is still out there somewhere.
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